41. How To Build Habits You Can Keep for Life

Lord, I’m going to lose my mind if I see one more person on their way to another Pilates class, tightly gripping a mint coloured smoothie, with the mat rolled up under their armpit as they struggle to find a balance between their fingers in the other hand to take the selfie no one asked for to pretend to their followers that these are the morning habits that make up their routine.

When, in reality, they are trying to signal to others that they have their life together, but deep down they want to crumble inside because it doesn’t feel like fun.

You don’t have to do it.

You don’t need a 4am start, a colour-coded calendar, or a morning matcha to change your life. It’s not necessary.

What you need to stop doing is pretending you’re someone you’re not, because this is the exact reason why so many women are failing to build habits that align with their highest version. Not because they’re lazy, but because they are performing.

Building habits that stick doesn’t require you to do everything, everywhere, all at once (great film by the way, would recommend).

The most you need to do is lace your trainers up, and that’s it. One small act that signals you’re changing. Adding more vegetables to the plate. One simple act you’re changing. Not feeling pressured to respond to a text message as soon as you receive it, in case the other person thinks you’re ignoring them. One simple act you’re changing.

Because most people never quite realise, the transformation isn’t in what you’re doing, it’s in how you think about what you’re doing and how many times you can do it.

In this article, I’ll show you how to build habits that feel natural, sustainable, and deeply aligned with who you are becoming, not who Lizzy Online told you to be. If you’re tired of the pattern of stop-start-stop-start, then keep reading because this might be the last time you have to.