One concept I encourage women to move away from is this idea of being ‘likeable’ simply because it’s a relative term, one that society tries to influence us to become, mainly to find success in both romantic and platonic relationships.

But you are only likeable to the people who like you.

And let’s face it, you play a different character in everyone’s story. To your mother, you are Princess Jasmine, and to your mother-in-law, you are Ursula.

Not only that, you can’t be respected if you’re more concerned with being understood. It’s one of the hardest lessons we as women have to learn, but only when you truly grasp this message can you step into your power.

Because what’s the alternative?

Spending years over-explaining yourself, shrinking your intelligence to fit in rooms you’ve outgrown just to make those around you comfortable, even though you are talented, kind and hardworking, as you pay the cost of still feeling invisible?

That can’t be life? That’s not living, that’s surviving.

The women who can command a life they feel in control of know that power and visibility aren’t granted, it’s engineered.

In this article, I’ll break down the subtle shifts and five power plays that make a woman impossible to ignore - in circles, in rooms, in relationships, in entire industries.

But before we get into that, ask yourself one question:

If someone else looked at your life from the outside, right now, would they instantly know you’re the main character?

Lord, I’m going to lose my mind if I see one more person on their way to another Pilates class, tightly gripping a mint coloured smoothie, with the mat rolled up under their armpit as they struggle to find a balance between their fingers in the other hand to take the selfie no one asked for to pretend to their followers that these are the morning habits that make up their routine.

When, in reality, they are trying to signal to others that they have their life together, but deep down they want to crumble inside because it doesn’t feel like fun.

You don’t have to do it.

You don’t need a 4am start, a colour-coded calendar, or a morning matcha to change your life. It’s not necessary.

What you need to stop doing is pretending you’re someone you’re not, because this is the exact reason why so many women are failing to build habits that align with their highest version. Not because they’re lazy, but because they are performing.

Building habits that stick doesn’t require you to do everything, everywhere, all at once (great film by the way, would recommend).

The most you need to do is lace your trainers up, and that’s it. One small act that signals you’re changing. Adding more vegetables to the plate. One simple act you’re changing. Not feeling pressured to respond to a text message as soon as you receive it, in case the other person thinks you’re ignoring them. One simple act you’re changing.

Because most people never quite realise, the transformation isn’t in what you’re doing, it’s in how you think about what you’re doing and how many times you can do it.

In this article, I’ll show you how to build habits that feel natural, sustainable, and deeply aligned with who you are becoming, not who Lizzy Online told you to be. If you’re tired of the pattern of stop-start-stop-start, then keep reading because this might be the last time you have to.

Everything feels like water off a duck’s back.

They’re not clock-watching anyone else’s timeline. They’re not panic-scrolling through social media, suffering from FOMO. They’re not scrambling to play ‘catch up’ to society’s ideals.

In fact, the women who never feel behind move forward with often a subtle authority over their lives. Not to say they don’t understand the art of urgency, but they know exactly when to speed up, when to slow down and when to shut the noise out completely.

They’re not waiting on luck or scouring TikTok for the latest manifestation tips. Instead, their attention is given to a curation of their daily habits and actions that allow them to elevate.

In this article, I will break down the exact routines these kinds of women embody. The routines that keep them moving forward without constantly looking over their shoulder, while everyone is running in circles.

If you’ve ever wondered why some woman seem so certain their lives are unfolding exactly as they planned, you’ll want to read this until the end. Because once you see how they do it, you’ll never look at your own routines in the same way again.

Congratulations! You’ve made it to the point of the year where we start freaking out about what we have and haven’t done this year, routines start to slip, energy begins to feel drained, and the certainty that you were about to become a billionaire off the idea you had back in March suddenly doesn’t seem so certain.

Finding composure in moments like this feels damn near impossible, and they aren’t found by pretending everything is fine. They’re found by learning how to sit and accept the chaos without letting your entire being be consumed by it.

In this article, I will share practical ways to stay composed when everything feels like it’s falling apart. You’ll even see me offer the forbidden advice of returning to square one, as well as the exact shift that will allow you to get back up and stand tall in the middle of the sand storm, even when everything else is falling apart.

When we look at women who are getting what they want, there are various groups, but two in particular stand out to me.

The women who talk about getting what they want, and the group that actually gets what they want.

Believe me, they’re running in two different lanes, one is wishing, one is winning. One group lives in hesitation, overthinking their choices, hoping something will eventually shift. The other sets their sights on something and goes for it like a leopard that spots an antelope after three days of intermittent fasting that they didn’t volunteer for.

She’s decisive, deliberate and shockingly consistent about her standards.

Truth is, the women who get what they want don’t always rely on luck, reaching unattainable beauty standards, or even privilege as much as you might think. They rely on a formula. A formula they tried a few times, saw the results, and swore by it.

It’s a way of moving through the world that makes it damn near impossible for them not to get what they came for.

In this article, I will break down that formula step by step and offer a set of questions most women ask when it comes to ambition, discipline, and desire. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but still not seeing results, what you’re about to read will change everything.

It’s so funny when I think about the times I would be nervous to start a new Yoga class, like to the point I’d rather miss out, so I don’t have to do the ‘new person in town walks into the local bar, then all heads turn’ thing.

And so, whether it’s a networking event, a high-end dinner party, or even a new fitness class, it almost always comes down to the fear of being seen, judged, or even worse, completely ignored.

For many women, this moment is loaded with anxiety because we’re conditioned to crave social validation or fear standing out in the wrong way.

In this article, I’ll break down how to turn the nerve-wrecking feeling into a confidence-building power play. We’ll look at:

• The real reasons why walking into a room alone feels so uncomfortable, and how to shift your thinking around it

• What confident women do differently in those first 30 seconds

• Simple strategies to keep all eyes on you for the right reasons

• Questions you should ask yourself before you even step through that door

By the end of this article, you’ll never hesitate at an entrance again.

As much as we sit back and pretend we don’t care what others think, to be respected by our family, friends, partners, colleagues and even strangers is a feeling that makes us feel good.

But there’s one particular skill that makes people instantly respect you, and it has nothing to do with what you look like, the bag you’re carrying, the clothes you wear or who you know.

Instead, it’s how you show up for yourself and if you show up for yourself in the same way you expect others to show up for you. Most people hold others to a higher standard than they hold themselves, and then wonder why they’re not taken seriously.

I know, I know. You should be respected no matter what, but unfortunately, that’s not how society works.

So either you wait another century for the world to wake up, or you play the game, win, then use your newfound power to help change it quickly.

In this article, I’ll walk you through why keeping the promises you make to yourself is the ultimate credibility builder, the consequences of following through versus flaking on yourself, and the mental shift that will change the way you operate in every area of your life.

I always find it so ironic that people think that because you’re an extrovert, you automatically are given the gift of confidence.

But when you get around really confident people, they come off as an introvert. They hate small talk, they value their privacy, they limit their presence online, and they are quite happy in their own company.

And although we’re told confidence is about speaking up, making the first move, being outgoing, the truth is that, if it’s not in your nature to force it, acting this way will just drain you and make you feel like a fraudulent Fiona.

In this article, I’m going to show you how that as an introvert, you don’t need to ‘out-loud’ anybody at an event, or talk about the weather to create a conversation. You can be confident without uttering a single word.