33. How To Adopt The Audacity of a White Man in a World That is Telling You To Be Quiet

The true title of this article was meant to be...’How To Adopt The Audacity of a White, Middle to Upper Class, Heterosexual Man in a World That Is Telling You To Be Quiet’…

But it was way too long.

Nevertheless, we’ve seen it countless times.

In meetings, on panels, in group chats, in job interviews, these days even at a damn Pilates class.

He shows up, he’s not that good…In fact he’s not good at all.

Underqualified, overconfident, and even if he is a bit nervous, it’s not because of his gender and definitely not because of his race.

He’s there, taking up space, not because he’s the best, it’s because deep down, there is no reason for him to feel as though he doesn’t belong.

No matter where he is, the world has been designed so that he can move freely like an aged-over-60 London pensioner with a freedom pass (and even they have restrictions).

And because he moves so brazenly and believes in his own sauce, the world believes him too.

Now, compare that to you.

You are brilliant, intelligent, vivacious, fun, full of ideas, and I’d go as far as to say a genius.

But you tiptoe around your ideas, you stutter when describing your dreams, you water your voice down to sound less authoritative.

You preface your excellence with “just a quick thought” or “I’m not an expert but…”

And what do you get in return? Glanced over, looked past or sometimes just completely ignored.

You may even have had the same audacity you courageously exercised weaponised against you.

But no more.

In this article, we’re going to break down the various ways to embody an unshakeable audacity without losing either your softness or sharpness.

We need more women who aren’t afraid to lead with presence, speak up with conviction, and stop waiting for permission.

We’re the most powerful piece on the chessboard. Are you ready to make the next move?