32. The Three Types of Confidence, And The One You’re Missing

It’s been the reason I’ve been so fortunate in many situations. From interning at fashion magazines, styling photoshoots in Paris and Rome, launching a beauty brand and now guiding women around the world into their best versions.

And in the same breath, it’s the reason I’d held back for over three to four years from speaking both on and to the camera to share my thoughts more intimately.

I always found it strange that I could be so confident in one setting, say in a group of friends, where once upon a time I’d be deemed ‘the loud one’, then in the next moment my stomach would turn at the thought of speaking to a bunch of strangers online who didn’t know me at all.

Confidence is often sold to us as a one-size-fits-all, but if you think about it long enough, that can’t be right, surely?

It also can’t be right that some women are just born with it and some are not? You don’t come into the world strutting around the hospital wing, hi-fiving all of the other babies.

Confidence is not one thing, it’s three…

And if you’ve been struggling with self-doubt, insecurities, impostor syndrome, or simply feeling as though you’re never quite enough, then it’s either because you’ve been focused on building the wrong type of confidence or even skipping one entirely.

In this article, I’m going to share the three major types of confidence, how to recognise them, how to build on them and finally how to layer all three to turn you into a full-blown icon.