Why You’re Still Not Her: The Silent Mindset Blocks Keeping You Small

It’s getting frustrating now, isn’t it?

You’re fed up of thinking about it, visualising it, dreaming about it. Where the hell is it?

Where is the blossoming career? Where is the stronger body? Where is the money? Where is the love? Where are the signs that show I’m at least going the right way?

I hear you.

We all want to be her. The woman who walks into a room and makes it tilt. The woman whose mornings begin with clarity, whose voice doesn’t shake when she speaks, who moves like she knows exactly who she is and what she’s building.
We all want to be who we know we can be, iconic.

But let’s be honest—wanting isn’t enough.

Because between you and that version of yourself stands a quiet war. One that lives in your mind. A battle between the person you were told to be and the person you were born to become.

These mindset blocks aren’t necessarily loud. They don’t shout. They whisper. They sound like your own voice. And they’re the reason you’re not living as your most magnetic, aligned, and powerful self.

I wrote this article with my past self in mind, I guess a letter to the girl who used to feel like she was doing all the right things, but couldn’t figure out why she was still stuck in the same place emotionally.

If you’re there now, I see you. Let’s get into what’s really in the way.