The true title of this article was meant to be...’How To Adopt The Audacity of a White, Middle to Upper Class, Heterosexual Man in a World That Is Telling You To Be Quiet’…

But it was way too long.

Nevertheless, we’ve seen it countless times.

In meetings, on panels, in group chats, in job interviews, these days even at a damn Pilates class.

He shows up, he’s not that good…In fact he’s not good at all.

Underqualified, overconfident, and even if he is a bit nervous, it’s not because of his gender and definitely not because of his race.

He’s there, taking up space, not because he’s the best, it’s because deep down, there is no reason for him to feel as though he doesn’t belong.

No matter where he is, the world has been designed so that he can move freely like an aged-over-60 London pensioner with a freedom pass (and even they have restrictions).

And because he moves so brazenly and believes in his own sauce, the world believes him too.

Now, compare that to you.

You are brilliant, intelligent, vivacious, fun, full of ideas, and I’d go as far as to say a genius.

But you tiptoe around your ideas, you stutter when describing your dreams, you water your voice down to sound less authoritative.

You preface your excellence with “just a quick thought” or “I’m not an expert but…”

And what do you get in return? Glanced over, looked past or sometimes just completely ignored.

You may even have had the same audacity you courageously exercised weaponised against you.

But no more.

In this article, we’re going to break down the various ways to embody an unshakeable audacity without losing either your softness or sharpness.

We need more women who aren’t afraid to lead with presence, speak up with conviction, and stop waiting for permission.

We’re the most powerful piece on the chessboard. Are you ready to make the next move?

It’s been the reason I’ve been so fortunate in many situations. From interning at fashion magazines, styling photoshoots in Paris and Rome, launching a beauty brand and now guiding women around the world into their best versions.

And in the same breath, it’s the reason I’d held back for over three to four years from speaking both on and to the camera to share my thoughts more intimately.

I always found it strange that I could be so confident in one setting, say in a group of friends, where once upon a time I’d be deemed ‘the loud one’, then in the next moment my stomach would turn at the thought of speaking to a bunch of strangers online who didn’t know me at all.

Confidence is often sold to us as a one-size-fits-all, but if you think about it long enough, that can’t be right, surely?

It also can’t be right that some women are just born with it and some are not? You don’t come into the world strutting around the hospital wing, hi-fiving all of the other babies.

Confidence is not one thing, it’s three…

And if you’ve been struggling with self-doubt, insecurities, impostor syndrome, or simply feeling as though you’re never quite enough, then it’s either because you’ve been focused on building the wrong type of confidence or even skipping one entirely.

In this article, I’m going to share the three major types of confidence, how to recognise them, how to build on them and finally how to layer all three to turn you into a full-blown icon.

Listen, you don’t need a new year. You don’t need a Monday. You don’t need another sign from the universe to start showing up like the woman you said you’d be. What you need is a decision one bold, definitive, unapologetic decision that the story changes now.

Most people coast through the second half of the year. They shrink, they stall, promising themselves it’ll be “next year.” But if you’re reading this, I already know you’re not most people.

There's still room to shock yourself. And there’s a version of you who’s not waiting on permission to take the wheel and turn everything around.

In this article, I’m going to walk you through my 6 step guide to the mindset shift, strategy, and unapologetic energy you need to make the next few months your personal plot twist.

One thing is for sure, and that’s when you decide to become the best version of yourself, you will eventually return to the version of yourself that you don’t want to be.

Strong start, I know…

But, you need to know these things because if you’re not prepared, how will you overcome the hurdle when you finally approach it?

So, what’s the point? What’s the point of even starting this journey of trying to attract the life you want, the dream position on the corporate ladder, the seven-figure fashion business, the golden retriever husband, the Porsche, the five-bedroom home in Surrey, the class pass to the best Pilates sessions, the Matcha mornings…

Why are we doing any of it if eventually you’re going to go back to the version of yourself that you fantasise about escaping?

Because, despite only 8% of people ever realising their dreams, there is still a chance, and that chance depends on how much you can withstand the process, even after the novelty wears off.

There’s something exciting about starting something new.

New planners, new journal, new workout clothes, a new routine, a new Monday morning. The thrill of rebranding your entire existence, your identity, the way you think, your habits, your standards, and the way you show up for yourself.

But what about when the rush of dopamine falls off?

What happens when your friends are no longer clapping for your commitment to getting in shape? When does being the ‘new you’ become less of a performance and now just a way of life?

This is what no one talks about.

The boring part is when people return their attention to their own lives, achievements, and problems, and it’s just you and you. It’s the stage where it’s easier to go back to the version you know rather than continue with the version that seems a little unsure.

In this article, I’m going to share how to romanticise your rebrand to minimise the risk of returning to a version you no longer want to identify with.

I went back and forth about whether to use the word influencer in the title because, since the rise of social media platforms, the meaning has totally changed.

At the same time, using it made the most sense.

Because at the root of it ‘influence’ isn’t something you hope people grant you, it’s something you build internally and then embody externally.

Then others believe in it.

Open TikTok and you’ll see it. Everyone’s an influence in some respect.

• A girl sharing her skincare routine.

• A single mum of two breaking down time management.

• A student voicing an opinion that goes viral overnight.

• Influence is no longer exclusive to celebrities. It’s a rite of passage in the default currency of the digital age.

Whether you realise it or not, you’re already influencing how people feel, think, and respond through your energy, words, choices, even your silence.

The only difference between women who lead the narrative and women who follow it is how deliberately they’ve programmed their influence.

And as a woman, that matters more than ever. Influence gives you leverage in your career, your income, your relationships, and the way the world reflects back who you are. It’s not about being loud. It’s about being undeniable.

In this article, I’ll break down exactly how to program yourself for influence from an identity standpoint to showing up intentionally, so you no longer just hope to be influential, but also impactful.

For once, I was running on time, meeting a friend for lunch. Clothes were on, makeup was done, hair was finished, and I had about 20 minutes to spare before I needed to leave to catch my train.

What could I do in those 20 minutes?…

That was the first time I ever showed up on camera to the community on social media, Instagram, to be specific.

It wasn’t planned, I didn’t really know what I was going to say, but what had taken me 4 years to pluck up the courage to do, I suddenly felt compelled to do in the heat of the moment on a random Wednesday afternoon and hit the record button.

So believe me, I know. That tightness in your chest that you feel every time you feel called to speak up, or post online, or walk into a room full of people and introduce yourself to someone is frightening, but it isn’t always because you're shy.

Yes, being shy is a personality trait, but there’s more to it than just being shy.

When you feel the urge to step forward, but feel as though something is holding you back, it’s because you are ready to be seen, but for so long you’ve trained your mind to hide.

You want to express yourself through your voice, your inner power, even your style, but before you’ve even uttered a word, you feel like something is shutting you down. You want to be confident, bold, and influential, but instead you shrink…

And the fear sets in.

You start wondering:

• “What’s wrong with me?”

• “My life would be so much easier if I were a confident girl”

• “What would it take for me to just put myself out there?”

But before you get frustrated with yourself, you should know that there’s nothing wrong with you, and the good news is, being shy is something you can easily overcome.

I’m not talking about ‘fixing your shyness’ because there’s nothing wrong with you in the first place. Instead, in this article, I’ll show you a framework to step into who you really are and finally find the confidence to be seen.

Let me start with something that might rattle your vision board straight off of your wall:

The last thing I ever want you to do is work toward your goals.

Sounds wild.

And you’re probably thinking, “Is this Patrice? The woman who claims she’s helping women worldwide become to the best version of themselves? And now she’s telling us to ditch our goals?”

Yes, it’s me. And no, I don’t want you to ditch your goals, but I do want you to redirect your approach….

We’ve been spoon-fed the hustle, the five-year plans and the idea that delayed gratification will eventually reward us with the life we want.

And while these concepts are important to know, what you’re not being told is…

Working towards your goal is often the very thing keeping it out of reach.

Don’t get me wrong, having goals is important. After all, they are your north star. They give you a target. They pull you out of the noise and give you a reason to keep going.

Of course, our goals are sacred.

But what I’m about to reveal might just flip the entire script inside out.

In a world where we glorify transformation, the before and after photos, the rags to riches, the single to married life. The aesthetically pleasing morning routines.

The part no one ever talks about is that bit in the middle.

That awkward part in the middle that boring and unsexy. The space between who you are and who you are becoming.

The part where you’re all doing all the right things, but it still feels like nothing is happening.

No applause, no views, no recognition, no shift…just air.

This is where most people give up. Not because they’re lazy or they don’t want it bad enough, but because they’ve arrived at a point where it just is.

Becoming the best version of yourself requires more than a desire. It requires emotional discipline to keep going even when the process falls to a stalemate, and the invisible remains as just that.

In this article, I’m going to break down why becoming your best self feels so boring at first, what’s actually happening during that season (even when it looks like nothing is), and how to mentally reframe boredom as proof that you’re building something real.